Archive for the ‘Body Language’ Category

A small task

February 28, 2009

jukebox on whiteThis week I have a small task for you. I would like you to choose one of the three options below to complete.

Option 1

Find your favorite piece of music and listen to the piece, write down why you like it. Do you like the tempo, the highs and lows is it the chords that are used or the words? Think about what attracts you to this particular song.

Option 2

Watch your favorite movie and as above, write down what you like about the story, is it the characters, is it the drama or excitement, how does the story start and end.

Option 3

Read your favorite book, poem or story and as with the film look at where the story starts, how are the characters described? what words are used and how does the story end.

You may be wondering why I’ve set you this task but over the next few weeks all will be revealed. We’ll be looking at why particular pieces attract us and how we can use similar principles and styles in our public speaking.

Keep speaking – Carrol

Emit emotions

September 12, 2008

During the week I caught up with my girlfriend at her place for lunch. Her daughter wanted to eat a candy bar before lunch and of course, her mother wouldn’t let her.

Her daughter started to cry, the face became all screwed up, the crying sounds came out and her little arms where being thrown around wildly. Then after a couple of seconds she would stop the tantrum, look to see if we were paying attention and then she continued with her pretend crying.

I found this very funny, but it made me think about speakers who don’t show or reflect the emotions that they’re talking about when on the stage. A good speaker needs to connect with their audience through their emotions.

* When you mask your emotions people may not trust your message. The subconscious mind is constantly looking for mismatches in behavior and if the mind sees one thing and hears another, mistrust will start to sneak in.

* We all have emotions.  If you’re not showing the emotions that you’re talking about you’re missing a great opportunity to connect with your audience on a deeper, much more personal level. 

Now, I’m not suggesting that you have a tantrum on stage, but if you’re talking about something that made you feel confident, show confidence, if you’re talking about something that made you excited, show excitement and the same for all of the other emotions that we as human beings are capable of.

“My task is to make you hear, to make you feel, to make you see” – Joseph Conrad.

Keep speaking – Carrol

3D Holographic Public Speaking

June 3, 2008

In May, Telstra chief technology officer Dr Hugh Bradlow made a presentation in Adelaide from Melbourne.  3D Hologram technology is now a reality, so having great non-verbal body language will become very important as this technology progresses.

This technolgy will make a big difference in corporate meetings and presentations.

If you’re in Australia and unable to attend a conference in the USA, you could view the conference through this new technology. This will open up the possibilty of seeing speakers and presenters that you normally wouldn’t have access too.

Perhaps all presentations will be given in this format in the future!

Read the article below,25642,23762267-5014111,00.html

Keep speaking – Carrol


Building Rapport – Match and Mirror

April 2, 2008

Today I am going to deviate slightly from the public speaking arena and venture straight into everyday communication.

Let me start by asking you a question.

Have you ever had a conversation with someone and you could feel there was a real connection between the two of you?

You may have felt like the person you were talking to was so familiar and yet you may not have met them before.

You may be matching and mirroring each other subconsciously!

What is matching and mirroring? This is a way of building rapport with someone without them even being aware of it and is a technique often used by salespeople.

Matching: Is doing something the other person is doing, but you are doing it in the reverse image. They move their right hand, you move your right hand.

Mirroring: Is being the mirror image of someone. So if they move their right hand, you mirror them and move your left hand.

Matching is a very subtle form of rapport and mirroring creates a deeper, unconscious level of rapport.

As presenters we need to be able to build rapport quickly with our audience so that we can take them on our journey. Your audience will be more open to listening if they feel that special connection with you.

The eyes are the windows to the soul

February 22, 2008

Eye contact is very important when you are presenting. I have heard some people say that if you are nervous, you should concentrate on a spot at the back of the room, just over people’s shoulders and they will never know the difference.

Personally I don’t believe in this strategy as I believe people can tell the difference.

When you are speaking to a friend or colleague do you look over their shoulder at a spot on the wall? ……………….No, you look them in the eye when you are talking to them, unless you are telling a lie.

Eye contact is vital as people will read your attitude and thoughts through your eyes. Looking people in the eye gives you a personal connection with them and when you are presenting you want people to listen and believe what you are saying.

A nervous presenter will avoid making eye contact and this is why people won’t believe them. When you are making your presentation, try talking to one person at a time and make eye contact with them for a couple of seconds, make a connection with them and then move onto another person and make a connection with them.

To build good rapport with your audience you need to make eye contact.

The long walk to centre stage

February 13, 2008

Non-verbal behaviour is know as body language. As speakers our body language can give away our true thoughts and feelings without us even realising it. Take for instance those few seconds between getting up from your seat and walking to the lecturn or podium. For some, this walk seems to last forever, for others the time disappears in the blink of an eye.

How we walk to the lecturn will speak volumes about our confidence. If you slowly stand up, start double checking that you have everything with you, fussing with your notes or gulping down water before you even get to the stage, your audience is going to assume that you are nervous and lack confidence, and may start to tune out before you’ve even uttered your first word.

If on the other hand, you stand up confidently, knowing that you have everything you need with you and walk directly (not rushing) to the speaking area, your audience will assume that you are a confident speaker and are more likely to listen to what you have to say.

Once at the lecturn place your notes down if you are using notes, pause for a moment, smile, step away from the lecturn and commence your presentation.

Try not to use the lecturn as a shield or barrier, if people can read your body language they will become more engaged in your presentation.